commentr/StutterApril 4, 2025

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26M here. I’ve dated quite a bit and one thing I've noticed is that confidence matters more than anything. Not in a cocky way but just being comfortable in your own skin. In my opinion, the biggest thing that hinders stutterers from dating is the confidence. Speaking up, making eye contact, just existing without overthinking every move. People feel it when you’re comfortable with who you are. the whole cliche “focus on yourself and the women will come” we've heard our whole life has some truth to it. Doesn’t mean you need to be rich. Just means you’re okay with yourself and not looking for validation from others. You know you bring some shit to the table. When you’re in that place you naturally give off something that attracts women. Maybe even literally (need a biologist to confirm lol) if someone doesn't want to date you because you stutter or whatever else you’re dealing with you have no control on that. Not your person. Every man gets rejected. But one monkey doesn't stop the show. Also, what helped me a lot was meeting people in more chill places like run clubs, hiking groups, stuff like that. Way easier to connect when it’s not a cold intro and people can just get to know you.

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Identity & DisabilitySocial & RelationshipsEmotional Experience

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Identity & Self-PerceptionDating & RomanceHope & Motivation