commentr/StutterAugust 20, 2019

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19M here. Same issue. I have been getting therapy for a year, reading very slowly, like very very slowly, only 3-4 words per 10 seconds, in front of a mirror. I do this drill everyday, for the past couple months, for 20 mins. I also practise whispering separately, and sometimes combine the two exercises. I do deep breathing, steady breathing, tongue and jaw exercises (For a more flexible jaw). I have a regular speech practise schedule. I have seen improvement in my speech after doing it for many weeks. It seems as if my mind-muscle connection has improved, my anxiety has decreased and stress has calmed. I think I am becoming more fluent. As a matter of fact, there are some consonents on which I used to stutter badly, but now I've forgotten even how I stuttered on them then! Some consonants still bug me, H, L, R, K, Ch and A. Sometimes my stutter relapses, for several days at a time, and it seems all hope is lost. But I come to this sub to all the beautiful people here and talk about my problems and give advices, spread the tiniest bit of positivity I can, and I seem to cope with it better. The fact that you don't stutter alone is an indication that there is no major mechanical issue, same as mine, the issue ismostly due to the vocal muscles/chords being oversensitive to negative thoughts, stress and anxiety (Even if you don't agree, it's fine. I didn't too. Untill I actually started learning about my stutter and about its specifics). Work on it. Remember, you havent got a perfect start, but you can perfect your ending. The best thing is, once you get out of it, you'll probably go on stage and have a story to tell or write a book. And inspire others. So hang in there, like I am, and everything will be the best. You don't have to be perfect to deliver a speech, you just have to be you-A you that has come with months of hardwork, practise, positivity and effort. I hope your stutter will improve over time. But remember, always believe in you and in your efforts. If you havent started, you have to know that its never late to start, and that you can still make it, despite the odds! Today I joined the debating society of my school. I still stutter a lot, and it puts me in crippling depression and anxiety. Some days I can't even say my name, but for me, to be there, to try, even when just sitting there, listening to all others, not saying a word, I know one day I'll make it, and progress comes step by step. It's not a constant line, its a line of frequent ups and downs, and these days I am having my worst relapse in a few weeks time, but it'll get better if I surely stick to my hardwork and believe that one day it'll happen. Good luck fellow stranger! I hope one day I see your post on this sub that you made it. I'll give you a gold that day.

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Coping & AdvocacyEmotional ExperienceTherapy & Professional

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Fluency TechniquesMindfulness & BreathingHope & MotivationTherapy Experiences