I hate the phrase "did they stutter?"

I hate the phrase "did they stutter?" I hate seeing and hearing "did they stutter?" after a speech or a snappy comeback. I approached someone who said this phrase, saying that if a person were to stutter it would not make a difference at all to what was said. And that saying "did they stutter?" Implies that if they did, what they said would have less meaning or have them seem stupid. They got combative and said this phrase is a "praise for the speakers fluency and conviction" and that it's a compliment. I don't get how they cannot see how backhanded that is. If someone were to stutter and say the exact same thing, it wouldn't change what was said at all. I could say the exact same things with the exact same conviction and stutter my way through it and still come out the other end having the same meaning if I were to not stutter. The words I use would still have the exact same meaning. The fact they used the word "fluency" is what got me, because there has always been a correlation with the word fluency and a hidden one with its opposite, disfluency, such as: Fluency = intelligent Disfluency = unintelligent This correlation can be seen in many speech related things such as stuttering, lisps and even not being fluent in a language. If you have any of these things you're instantly thought to be not as smart as you actually are, and it's statistically proven! And I'm sure everyone on this sub has experienced this factor. They then went on to say that everyone stutters, so what's the big deal? The big deal is that you're painting disfluency as unintelligence and you're branding it as something embarrassing, something 'ok' to casually mock in a phrase such as "did they stutter?" To end this rant, I think what I want to say right now is that we are all eloquent as f×ck. And maybe the good lord gave us a speech impediment to show mercy on all of them.