commentr/StutterJune 12, 2018

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I'm a 33 year old stutterer and I gotta say I completely disagree with you. Lots of people care about stuttering. Its often very off-putting for people you're speaking with, and that's obvious to anyone with a stutter. I should definitely not be in sales, or in a call center, or anywhere else where fluent speech is extremely important to my job. I'm not saying these things to be cynical or mean. I'm saying them because that's the sort of advice I used to get and its totally unhelpful. People would tell me 'no one cares about your stutter', but that would be disconfirmed with the first person I spoke to. With that said, what helped me a lot (I'm now a doctor, stutter all the time) is to simply not give a shit. Its a subtle but (at least for me) difficult mental change to make, but it totally changed my life. Some people will look at you funny; people on the phone will talk over you or tell you your connection is breaking up; people will ask you if you forgot your own name etc. You can't change those things - you can only change how these events are integrated into your conscious experience. What is the worst thing that can happen by stuttering in front of people? Basically nothing but your own embarrassment. So take charge of your embarrassment and shrug your shoulders at it. It doesn't matter at all. There's billions of people on earth, billions of stars in the universe, and you stutter - whatever! Once your attitude about it changes, all sorts of other things start to fall into place. You're much less anxious about speaking in public, which means you actually stutter less. You become more confident and outgoing which leads to more success. Its a feedback loop. I still stutter, but I don't let it bother me. If it bothers other people, it doesn't affect me in the slightest.

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Community & SupportSchool & WorkIdentity & DisabilityEmotional Experience

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Validation & EmpathyEmployment & CareerIdentity & Self-PerceptionHope & Motivation