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I’m not sure I have much advice that’s not cliche or something most stutterers have heard 100 times before. Take it day by day. If you had a bad day one day don’t let negative thoughts from it ruin your next. If you had a bad go of it and stuttered a lot during a presentation at work or school, don’t let the negativity swamp your sociability during the party that weekend, etc. Forget about the past blocks, they can’t be changed and therefore don’t matter anymore. Try as best you can to accept the fact that you can’t always be fluent. Let perfection go. It’s unattainable for literally everyone, stutterer or not. I find I spend so much effort and energy and devote my thoughts so much to trying to hide my stutter that I inadvertently focus on it too much and it paradoxically makes my fluency worse. Understand that fluency for non stutterers is natural and they don’t have to consciously think about it like we do. If you can re-wire your thinking you can improve a great deal in fluency. No longer approach social interactions with negative thoughts about how someone might react to your stutter, instead if you go in to it without it being a primary concern you’re far more likely to have success. I’ve always been a believer that for most, strong disfluency most often occurs due to fear of rejection from others. When that fear is out of mind, you may still stutter but likely a lot less, and you will also feel less apprehensive toward interactions. If I could magically become fluent, but still experience the crippling apprehension and stress of social interactions, or conversely, remain a stutterer but have zero inhibition toward interactions of any kind, I very well may choose the latter. Overall, it’s rare that a stutter that sticks around in to adulthood ever goes away. Without losing hope, acknowledge that it’s very likely a stutter is permanent, BUT severity of a stutter is not. One can make great strides in improving fluency through practice and changing perspective, but it’s rare they ever completely cure it.