commentr/StutterJuly 20, 2018

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I’ve met a few people who laughed at my stutter. They got used to it though and the laughing went away. I don’t blame you, though. I have a blocking stutter, so I just get stuck on sounds and they won’t come out. And when I get stuck in a block, my face gets all contorted and I make funny noises. Probably looks and sounds pretty silly to people who haven’t been around it before. Sometimes I have to laugh at myself for how ridiculous it is. Hopefully he’s pretty comfortable with his stutter and can laugh it off too. Do try to consider his feelings though. There’s a difference between laughing at someone and laughing with them. I suggest you try putting yourself in his shoes. Like really try to imagine what it would be like if it was you who had the stutter. Imagine trying to speak and words just cannot come out right, no matter how hard you try. It’s like one of those nightmares where you’re trying to run from something but your legs don’t work. Imagine that feeling every day in every human interaction you’ll ever have. It’s exhausting and humiliating. Imagine the frustration and embarrassment you’d feel when someone asks your name and you spend 20 seconds trying to frantically get it out and when you finally do, you’re out of breath and it didn’t even sound right so they have to ask you to repeat yourself. Imagine having to get up in front of an audience and give a presentation and you’re so nervous, you stutter on every word and the 5 minute speech ends up taking 15 minutes. Everyone is watching you with these sad looks, or they’re so embarrassed for you that they have to look away. Imagine being afraid of phone calls because every time you have to call someone, you get stuck on a word. After 10 to 20 seconds of silence, people just hang up on you. Imagine trying to order food through a drive-thru and the overworked and underpaid employee on the other end gets annoyed and doesn’t let you finish your order. Not so funny for us. You seem young, so maybe it’ll come with maturity. But my advice to you is learn to be compassionate to everyone. This goes far beyond just stutterers. Realize that every single person on this earth is going through some kind of hardship and we all need to support and love each other.

Themes

Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional Experience

Subthemes

Feared Words & NamesAvoidance & SubstitutionHiding & ConcealmentStress & Fight/FlightSeverity & FluctuationShame & Embarrassment

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intimidation_authorityordering_service_encounterreading_aloud