commentr/StutterSeptember 26, 2020

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This is a really good post. I stuttered and blocked from the time I was 6 or 7 through my 20's and beyond until I realized one day that I didn't stutter when I was alone, only when I was trying to talk to someone else. That told me there was really nothing physically wrong with me because you can't have a disability based on your location. A man with a limp limps in every room of his house. He can't go into a room alone shut the door and walk perfectly, but if I could speak fluently, or even just better when I was alone and could say all the words that were supposedly "hard" for me to say, then I realized that for whatever reason I had created this from my mind. This does not necessarily pertain to all stutterers but it was true for me. I worked very hard for years to release myself from what I called "The bondage of stuttering." I haven't stuttered or blocked for many years now but the triggers are always there and probably always will be. The difference is I just don't allow myself to stutter. It's too painful. Only another stutterer knows the pain and humiliation felt by someone who stutters. In college I signed up for speech class, not speech therapy but a class where I would have to give speeches to the other students. I confronted my fear because fear is a bully. I thought I would die from fright but I and everyone else was amazed that I didn't stutter when giving the speeches. Like an actor who becomes someone else for a role, I think I became the guy who didn't stutter. I stuttered afterwards but not during. Stuttering is a very frustrating thing to deal with to say the least, but the most important thing is to have HOPE that you can get better, and never give up. Only accept the things you can not change, and hopefully Stuttering is not one of them.

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Anticipation & AvoidanceCauses & VariabilityEmotional ExperienceIdentity & Disability

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Hiding & ConcealmentExperiential AssociationStress & Fight/FlightHope & MotivationAcceptance & Pride

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