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I’m not surprise that some people got mad for that, although they should not. What I decided to do is to not talk about my stutter in my bio. I chat with them girls for a while (still not raising the stuttering issue) and if I feel like it, I set up a quick call. I know calls are difficult for a lot of us (it was impossible for me too, but since I started working 4 years ago I am constantly on the phone and I ended up being OK with it). During a call, I always end up stuttering. Always! I never got anyone making any issue with it during the call, although some women send me a message afterward saying they feel we won’t get along well. But it could be something else than my stutter so I don’t take it harsh. In the end, I ended up having very few IRL dates (3 actually), but I got to get THE one, so I got that going for me, which is nice! So try to not take it harsh. If people can’t get along with you, they don’t deserve to be with you and you’re better off without them. I know it’s easier to say than actually doing it. It took me several years to get this in my mind (and the help of a shrink to be honest), but now I’m a much happier person. I don’t mind picking up the phone and stuttering all the way to order a goddam pizza, or taking 2 full minutes to say ‘Thank you, have a nice day’ to the cashier at the grocery store. And believe it or not, in the long run it made my stuttering going better.